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  • Is Religion Hurting America?

    Oct 22nd 2007

    By: Chris

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    After watching a rather humorous Colbert on NBC’s Meet the Nation on Sunday morning I was flipping through the channels and ended up watching an interview of presidential candidate Mitt Romney. Mitt Romney is a Mormon, and much of the interview was about his religion.

    I found something he said several times rather interesting. Whenever Romney was asked about his religious beliefs he refused to answer the question and said he would defer to those who study his religion. There is the obvious conclusion about this that Romney cannot make his own beliefs, but I am not writing this to bash Romney.

    I am writing this because this made me realize something. I realized that a large reason behind the bigotry and discrimination toward GLBT is because of religion. Not only is it because of religion it is because a significant number of people refuse to choose what to believe and simply follow their religion blindly.

    According to CIA estimates from 2002 10% of Americans are not religious. Of the remaining 90% of Americans I would say 10-15% of those follow their religious leaders blindly and if the religious leaders say the sky is green would believe it. I estimate another 20-30% do actually think for themselves, but are afraid to publicly oppose the stance of their religion (Romney is an example). Then you have another 10-20% who do actually challenge what their religion says with the remainder being loosely affiliated with their religion. These are my estimates not facts.

    When I do the math I realize that probably 35-40% of Americans oppose same sex marriage solely because their religion says so and they do not have a good argument otherwise. So in America, the land of the free, why do so many people not think for themselves? After America was discovered immigrants moved to America to get away from overpowering religion in Europe. So why is it that some locations in Europe now allow gay marriage, yet the United States is still bound by their religious leaders?

    I do not know the answer. I do not know why Americans do not make their own decisions. Maybe the political activism in the United States has died away for a while? I have no doubt it will come back, but when was the last time there were major organized political protests in the US? Maybe there is some other reason entirely? Whatever the answer one has to ask, if religion is such a large part of American’s values what type of influence good or bad has this blind following of religion had on the current United States?

    (By the way, I have no idea why the CIA is collecting religion data on the United States.)

  • National Coming Out Day

    Oct 11th 2007

    By: Chris

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    First, Alex at Bilerico has a very good post about acceptance within the gay community, a topic I recently posted about here.

    Secondly, today is National Coming Out day. This is a day used by many gays to show others that they are not alone and let others know that homosexuals do exist and probably are part of most peoples every day lives. If there was anywhere that I was truly out, I would consider doing a little something, but there is not anywhere I am truly out nor do I anticipate meeting up with anyone where it would be appropriate to come out tomorrow.

    However, one thing I have heard is people questioning if National Coming Out day is really something we should be doing. My initial reaction is no, it really cannot do much harm, but it is not worth the effort. But then I think back a couple years when I first learned about national coming out day. At the time I was feeling extremely lonely and wasn’t sure what to do, and although I can’t say this day changed my life drastically, it did make me happy and not feel so alone.

    So do I think National Coming Out day is worthwhile? Yes. Will I be celebrating it? No not really. If I were at a college or a high school would I be celebrating it? Probably.

  • Everything is Working Against This Blog

    Oct 7th 2007

    By: Chris

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    Sorry about the lack of posts lately. At first I was depressed and didn’t feel like posting, then I was unexpectedly without internet access for a week (stupid hotel claiming to have internet access, but not really have it), then I broke my finger and even typing this is taking me much, much longer than it should. So I will get back to posting when I either get voice recognition software, or I get used to typing with th broken finger.

    In the mean time I have a small piece of advice. Never throw the football when you are drunk, even if it is just mildly so. You just might break your finger.

  • J=Jock

    Sep 26th 2007

    By: Chris

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    Jock. Yes, I was a jock and in some ways still am. No I am not one of those jocks you think of when you think of a football player, I am a jock you think of when you think of a cross country runner. I was someone who was too much of a jock to hang out with the non-jocks but not enough of a jock to hang out with the football players.

  • Work Stress

    Sep 26th 2007

    By: Chris

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    I know I have not been the most religious about posting lately and I am sorry. Unfortunately I have been dealing with a lot of stressful situations at work, but this is really not an excuse for me to neglect my blog. No, the situations at work have nothing to do with me being gay, and no I am not losing my job, but there are a lot of changes occurring.

    However, these situations are seriously killing my social life. And this is causing me to become depressed and lose the motivation to blog. The major cause of this is my company has decided to close our Indianapolis office. Now this news is not as bad as it sounds as the company is not letting anyone from the office go. Instead the company is going to force us to work from home. I think this it is pretty obvious how this is killing my social life. Working from home and maintaining a social life will be difficult for me, I am not the most outgoing person. Therefore meeting enough people to keep me in contact and socializing with people most nights a week will be difficult.

    Yes, I said there was more than one thing at work causing my depression. The second issue I am facing is I have only been with the company 3 months and only graduated college 4 months ago; however, on my current project I am the de facto senior developer. Yes, there are more experienced people on the project but I have become the go to guy and the person revealing all of the issues we are encountering on the project along with proposing the solutions. At my experience level this is extremely stressful as some of the issues I am encountering are deal breakers and I have to convince more senior people of the magnitude of these issues and then offer the solution. This means more hours, which mean less personal time, hence less social life.

    Anyway, I don’t know why I wrote this or what point I was trying to make or why I feel the need to keep writing so I guess I just need to post this and be done with it.

  • I=Irritable

    Sep 19th 2007

    By: Chris

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    Irritable. If I have not been eating well, or getting enough sleep, or have just been really stressed I get very irritable. When this happens, the only way to avoid my wrath is to stay out of my way. I know when I am like this, and I will frequently apologize immediately before or after I go off on you, but this is one trait of mine I really need to learn to control.

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