My Gay Life

Should we celebrate Independence Day when the government refuses to pass laws to protect freedom from discrimination?

Should we celebrate Independence Day when our government applies different taxes to gays than straight married couples?

Should we celebrate Independence Day when our government is ruled by religion?

Should we celebrate Independence Day when someone cannot find housing solely because they are gay?

Should we celebrate Independence Day when our nation still treats some of its residents like second and third class citizens?

No.

Why do we celebrate Independence Day for a nation that treats the gay community very similarly to how Britain treated the US? Would we not be more productive by using this day to protest? I think it would make one hell of statement. Why do we trust that the government is just going to make things better if we keep begging and asking? How long do we have to beg?

I do not respect this country. I will not celebrate this country. I am disgusted to be an American.

So next Independence Day, next Memorial Day, next President’s day, next Labor Day ask yourself “Why are you celebrating? Are you celebrating this country? Should you be celebrating this country?”

I am currently undecided on what I think about the latest news on DADT. On the one hand I think, great DADT is going to be repealed. On the other, I ask why do we have to wait for some study. I do not care what people in the military think, the military is a breeding ground of intolerance. So while I make up my mind on DADT I thought I would share a few lessons I learned in the last couple days.

1) Riding my bicycle in hail is not fun.
2) Surprisingly, quarter inch hail does not hurt.
3) Cyclists measure their speed in Kilometers per hours instead of miles per hour because when they are having a bad day it makes them feel like they are going faster.
4) President Obama is a politician through and through and will try everything possible not to follow through on campaign promises.
5) John McCain is 100 times worse than President Obama.

Well, I am back. I think I might start writing again. Nothing consistent just when I have something to say. There has been a lot going on in my life and a lot going on in the gay world in general. So at least at the moment I feel I have something to write about.

But first before I really start posting, there is this thing called “My Life is G”. Not really sure what it is, but 40% of this blog’s traffic is coming from that search term. What is this and why does Google list my site 4th under that search term??? Not complaining, the traffic is certainly nice.

The other day I was having a drink with a few co-workers and was asked for about the 1000th time if I had a girlfriend. I decided I was tired of answering that question and decided to come out.

One thing I think most people are afraid of when they come out to someone is the challenge of explaining why you are gay and getting someone to accept you being gay. We are afraid of getting fired or ostracized.

When I came out to my coworkers I experienced none of this. The conversation went:

Me: Well honestly I will never have a girlfriend.
Co-Workers: Why?
Me: I am gay.
Co-Workers: Do you need a boyfriend?

This made me realize just how far the gay community has come in its acceptance recently. There was no asking why I was gay or how I was gay or wow or we can no longer be friends. It was let me help you find a boyfriend.

I learned not to be afraid of coming out anymore. Yes, you can still have a bad experience coming out, but it is a lot easier to do today.

This conversation almost doubled the number of straight people who know I am gay. However, this conversation has also made me a lot happier and feels like a big weight lifted from my shoulders. I learned to not be afraid of coming out.

Can it still be dangerous? Yes. I could have gotten fired as a result of that conversation. But I learned not to be as afraid and be much more willing to come out.

P.S. I know I said I was done posting, and this does not mean I am starting again. But I will continue to post occasionally about important events that I think need to be shared.

Although I have quit posting to this blog, I thought I would point out a post my former readers might be interested in on my new blog Hold Nothing Back. It is an open letter I wrote to anti-gay activists.

After months of trying to decide what to do with this blog, I have finally decided to stop posting here. Yes, I am gay, but there is more to me than being gay. And honestly there is not enough about me being gay to keep posting to this blog.

However, just because I have decided to stop posting here, does not mean I am done blogging. I just began a new blog www.holdnothingback.com. In this blog I have quit being politically correct and am saying what I want about any topic I want.

I hope to see you there!