My Gay Life

I was looking through some of my unpublished drafts and found this one I started writing in the summer of 2010. I figured I would get around to finishing it as it is something we all experience.

The challenge with being gay is that it is difficult to tell who else is gay. Heterosexuals can just look at the opposite sex and have a pretty good idea of who is available to them. They can also check for wedding rings before falling for someone. However, gay people can never tell. Yes there is this gaydar thing but it honestly does not work.

So you fall for a hot guy. And you really wish you could be with him, but you are not sure he is gay. Of course you do not do anything about it, because you don’t want to get in that awkward situation or make that hot guy feel awkward either. So every time you talk to him you secretly wish he would tell you he is gay. Deep down you know he is not gay, but that does not prevent you from wishing.

I run out of fingers and toes counting the number of guys this has happened to with me to some degree or another. They are good looking, you get along with them, and they would be everything you look for in a partner except for them being gay.

I guess I really do not have a point outside of saying it really would be nice if one of those straight crushes ended up being gay. But such is the life of a gay man.

And no for all of the people who are concerned about a gay guy hitting on them. Just because I think you look good and have a crush on you does not mean I am going to hit on you or make overt sexual passes at you. Take is as a compliment that I think you look good, I am not going to do anything about it if you are not gay.