Comments on: Have I Accepted Myself? http://www.mygaylife.net/2007/09/17/have-i-accepted-myself/ You Are Not Alone Sun, 15 Aug 2010 17:17:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: francis longley http://www.mygaylife.net/2007/09/17/have-i-accepted-myself/#comment-302 francis longley Wed, 10 Feb 2010 08:50:26 +0000 http://www.mygaylife.net/2007/09/17/have-i-accepted-myself/#comment-302 gay are born every day but only a few will a mit it i say who care life is to shot god make a few or us i did not know i could be one to; in my teen age year i frond out so be it we all have to be who we are; to day it abut me exceeting me.....gay or bi we make the best or our life work for us aa saco maine gay are born every day but only a few will a mit it i say who care life is to shot god make a few or us i did not know i could be one to; in my teen age year i frond out so be it we all have to be who we are; to day it abut me exceeting me…..gay or bi we make the best or our life work for us aa saco maine

]]> By: Chris http://www.mygaylife.net/2007/09/17/have-i-accepted-myself/#comment-56 Chris Fri, 12 Oct 2007 02:05:09 +0000 http://www.mygaylife.net/2007/09/17/have-i-accepted-myself/#comment-56 Alex, thanks for referencing me in your post. Skye I agree with what you say and I don't think when I was writing the post I was trying to say you have to accept yourself 100%, but you do have to accept yourself enough to be happy and willing to go out. As an update, I still have not made it to a gay bar, but this is mostly because I have not had a chance since I posted this. Every weekend between when I posted this and now I have either had company in town or been out of town myself. I hope to go out tomorrow. Alex, thanks for referencing me in your post. Skye I agree with what you say and I don’t think when I was writing the post I was trying to say you have to accept yourself 100%, but you do have to accept yourself enough to be happy and willing to go out.

As an update, I still have not made it to a gay bar, but this is mostly because I have not had a chance since I posted this. Every weekend between when I posted this and now I have either had company in town or been out of town myself. I hope to go out tomorrow.

]]> By: Alex Blaze http://www.mygaylife.net/2007/09/17/have-i-accepted-myself/#comment-54 Alex Blaze Thu, 11 Oct 2007 20:13:36 +0000 http://www.mygaylife.net/2007/09/17/have-i-accepted-myself/#comment-54 Hey Chris! Loved the post. You're totally right. I <a href="http://www.bilerico.com/2007/10/happy_national_coming_out_day_everyone.php" rel="nofollow">posted</a> on this at Bilerico, if you want to read about it. Hey Chris!

Loved the post. You’re totally right. I posted on this at Bilerico, if you want to read about it.

]]> By: Skye http://www.mygaylife.net/2007/09/17/have-i-accepted-myself/#comment-49 Skye Thu, 20 Sep 2007 04:33:15 +0000 http://www.mygaylife.net/2007/09/17/have-i-accepted-myself/#comment-49 I think the words of Oscar Hammerstein apply, from the musical Oklahoma: "I'd like to teach you all a little sayin' And learn the words by heart the way you should I don't say I'm no better than anybody else, But I'll be damned if I ain't jist as good! " I refuse in public to acknowledge in any way, by any action, that any person is better than me. I concede the fact that they may actually be better than me in some ways, but I'll be damned if I give anybody the satisfaction of seeing me treat them as if they are better. Now the flip side. The best fortune cookie message I ever got said "to be loved, be lovable". The message implies that you have some control of your lovability by being able to change things about yourself. I think that means that its okay not to accept 100% of who you currently are, because if people did there would be no personal improvement. Lesson learned: 1) no matter where a person currently is on the lovability scale, their high value as a person is unaffected. 2) If and when you are ready, you can always make yourself better in some way to some degree. I think the words of Oscar Hammerstein apply, from the musical Oklahoma:

“I’d like to teach you all a little sayin’
And learn the words by heart the way you should
I don’t say I’m no better than anybody else,
But I’ll be damned if I ain’t jist as good! ”

I refuse in public to acknowledge in any way, by any action, that any person is better than me. I concede the fact that they may actually be better than me in some ways, but I’ll be damned if I give anybody the satisfaction of seeing me treat them as if they are better.

Now the flip side. The best fortune cookie message I ever got said “to be loved, be lovable”. The message implies that you have some control of your lovability by being able to change things about yourself. I think that means that its okay not to accept 100% of who you currently are, because if people did there would be no personal improvement.

Lesson learned: 1) no matter where a person currently is on the lovability scale, their high value as a person is unaffected. 2) If and when you are ready, you can always make yourself better in some way to some degree.

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